Partnership (With Self) Contract

Divorced from my 1st husband, recently separated from my long time boyfriend, soon-to be- mom to a baby boy, I’d like to make a personal commitment to myself. I will be a single mother who is commited to self discovery and to furthering my joy and growth as a remarkable woman with my new best partner- me.

I agree to the following ideals:

I dont have to be a mom and dad to my son. I just need to be a loving guiding parent.

Allow myself time for my feelings to emerge has been a wonderful catharthic for me. I promise to allow a few minutes everyday to express my feelings, no matter how great or rotten I feel that day.

Never allow anyone to belittle me, and my family.

Respect myself. 

If and when I remarry, I promise to continue to nurture myself above above anyone else and not to stop growing because I am in a relationship. If I find that I cant grow because of the confines of a restrictive relationship, I will change that.

I will listen to and learn from my son as well as teach.

When people tell me how scary it must be to be a single mom, I will show them my bravery.

When people misjudge single mothers n my presence, I will educate them to the truths.

When people questions the legitimacy of children whose birth certificates dont bear a man’s signature, I will correct them gently but pointedly.

Within the next three months, I will have chosen “journaling” as an outlet with which to explore myself more fully. Graphic Illustration, and Yoga are two other interests I would like to continue to pursue.

In the course of raising myself and my son, I have learned that this is not a transition time until another husband or father for my son comes along, but rather a time that encourages me to deal with the here and now. The task is not so much to get through each day, but rather to appreciate the joy in the process. To that end, I agree to the above commitments which has no specific time goals, but I agree to begin this journey with myself starting today (November 17th, 2007).

Starting All Over Again

The only way to go when you want to alter your life is to do it the old cold turkey way ..like stripping a band aid! You have to muster all the courage and strength and just do it! Its been two week since I moved out from my boyfriends place after so much emotional stress. It wasnt an impulsive move but rather a wise selfless act. The pain is agonizing but I believe its the best decision I made. I am expecting to give birth in a few weeks. Although my ideals have been shattered. I know greater things are yet to come. I know it wont be easy being a single parent but Im sure the challenges will be very fulfilling. Thanks to the great support I have.. my angel friends, loving family, and God’s continuous guidance.

Rise by Samantha James

You should believe me
And everything I choose to do
You should believe that I’ll
Always come back to you

Life is discovering
The love that we create
Life is a mystery
We need to embrace

In every way
You need to let go
You’ll see all your dreams will follow
In every way
You need to let go

(Chorus)
People rise together
When they believe in tomorrow
Change the day to forever
This life keeps movin’
(Repeat 2x)

Open your mind and see
We have everything we need
Dream or reality
Fulfill its destin….

In every way
You need to let go
You’ll see all your dreams will follow
In every way
You need to let go

(Chorus)
People rise together
When they believe in tomorrow
Change the day to forever
This life keeps movin’
(Repeat 2x)

You need to let go…
You need to let go…

(With instrumentals)
People rise
When they believe
Change the day
This life keeps movin’

(Chorus)
People rise together
When they believe in tomorrow
Change the day to forever
This life keeps movin’